Big confession, I don’t particularly like change and I am not by nature a big risk taker. I want to sink into a comfy chair of predictable stability. Yet I understand that change in my life is unavoidable. Life has not remained static despite my desire for consistency.
I have found that what is equally important is discovering what will motivate them to change, especially when they are faced with behaviors they would like to modify.What I guess I am really saying is, “I might have some control issues.” I suspect that there might be others out there like me. It is one thing to embrace change when it is your choice, but a whole different story when external forces seem to conspire against you. The people I counsel didn’t ask for their company to downsize, or for their partner to divorce them, or for their adult child to move across state. It wasn’t their choice to experience these changes, but they are now left with having to adapt and “change is good,” is not the first thing they utter.
The focus of my counseling, training, and consulting, is to support individuals and organizations to find their own answer of how to accept, grow, and learn, from change. I have found that what is equally important is discovering what will motivate them to change, especially when they are faced with behaviors they would like to modify.
The practice of Motivational Interviewing has enriched my counseling practice by providing me with specific tools to enhance the collaborative process in which to explore my clients’ ambivalence, as well as helping them to better determine their plan for reaching their goals. This training has lessened my own resistance to change and helped me towards making peace with it, because as the ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus said, “ The only thing that is constant is change.”